Nice guys and metrosexuals

Saturday, July 17, 2004 Dr. Vishaal Bhat 0 Comments

It was just a matter of time before I write something regarding the subject of nice guys. What prompted this was my phone conversation with a old time friend last night. He told me about some girl he met, and how she is using her looks and sex appeal to get away with murders (figure of speech course) and manipulating guys around her. The funny thing is she never lacks guys she can use, guys volunteer to be used. I say that the problem does not lie in the girl, but the nice guys who make it easy for her to prey on.

Why do nice guys finish last? “Nice” is like the last adjective a guy should want people to describe him as. Ask yourself this: “what kind of guy is a nice guy?” I mean shouldn’t a “person” have personality and other memorable qualities that distinguish himself from others? Proper adjectives should be stuff like: smart, quick, atheletic, determined, driven, ambitious, experienced, …etc. 

Imagine your typical nice guy, what kind of image forms in your head? Probably somebody who is quick to agree and will bend themselves around for other people. You’ve probably seen this before in web forums or mailing list discussions, every time a female posts or create a thread, the exact same guys will respond with OVERLY “nice” posts, and are TERRIFIED of disagreeing with her. It’s like they are begging for attention. Pathetic. And borderline sick.

Don’t get me wrong, I totally agree that women should have equal rights, and that the women movement was a good thing back in 1900s. But sometimes I feel like our society is now educating and shaping bunch of men who apologize too much for being males. As a result, you often see guys without a backbone when dealing with the other sex. 

I think this is the decade in which guys have a serious identity crisis and not know their roles as males. I mean, what is this “metro-sexual” crap? A man ought to be strong and action oriented. Not weak and sensitive. On the other hand, sometimes guys go to the extreme and are assholes, NEVER showing their good side (yes…assholes too are losers). 

In my mind, a guy should not be afraid to tell a women things for what they are. Although, he makes sure that he is not hurting anyone either. He’s gotta have some flair, a personality, have things which he’s truly passionate about. Not like a dog begging for female attention. He treats everyone with respect. He is fair and balanced in the way he treats both females and males. A man is a brand, make an impression.

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